What happens at Here We Are
Here We Are creates small-group retreats for men who want space to slow down, reflect honestly, and reconnect with what matters. The experience blends conversation, nature, rest, and real community in a setting designed to feel both grounded and transformative.
Who it’s for
For men who are seeking like-minded people but feel stretched thin, disconnected, or stuck in constant performance mode.
What you’ll experience
Guided conversation, time outdoors, reflection, shared meals, rest, and a small-group setting built for honesty and connection.
What you’ll leave with
Greater clarity, deeper connection to yourself and others, and practices you can bring back into daily life.
Featured Facilitators
A few of the facilitators who have helped shape Here We Are retreats, including guests featured in the upcoming fall retreat
John Neely
Harvard Art Museums Videographer
Brings a visual storyteller’s eye to the outdoors, guiding photography and videography hikes, fly fishing instruction, and moments of careful observation.
Eric Lopez
Finance & Strategy Manager
Uses music as a lens for communication and connection, creating space for reflection, expression, and deeper listening.
Richard Lee
Keynote Speaker & Connection Coach
Author, consultant, and certified coach helping people build more meaningful relationships through honest communication.
What the retreats include
Each Here We Are retreat is designed to help men slow down, reconnect, and return to what matters.
Connection
Small-group conversation, shared meals, and honest experiences that build trust, presence, and meaningful relationships.
Intention
Workshops, journaling, and guided reflection that help participants slow down, notice what matters, and move forward with greater clarity.
Play
Time outdoors, movement, challenge, and moments of lightness that create space for joy, reset, and perspective.
Reflections from the first retreat
Reflections from men who joined the first Here We Are retreat.
The main takeaway was recognizing how far I’ve come in my journey. I’ve done so much internal work over the past few years, and sharing during the sessions reminded me of the transformation I’ve already been through. I used to struggle with not feeling good enough or like I fit in, but now I can see how different my life feels.
— Richard L.
Wheels are spinning, heart is growing, and immensely grateful. Huge props for lighting a spark.
— Chris D.
One thing that was so great about it was very quickly learning about such great personalities, experiencing different people from all walks of life, but finding a lot of commonality among us regardless of your age or situation.
— Vlad S.
Since we left the retreat, I have journaled 14 pages in a full size moleskin. This weekend really jump started a lot of reflection.
— Andrew O.
The house was awesome, but more than anything it was meeting everyone and the conversations we shared.
— Eric L.
I’m all about looking for connection these days…this is an opportunity to connect with men who are wanting to improve themselves, get better at relationships, improve in their careers. Josh did a wonderful job bringing together a really good, well-meaning, down-to-earth group of guys and I’m going to be friends with these guys going forward in my network.
— John N.
The Next Retreat
Fall Forward
A fall weekend in Bethel, Maine along the Androscoggin designed to slow down, reconnect, and explore.
- September 17th-20th in Bethel, Maine
- Guest Facilitators focused on music, nature videography and fly fishing
- Limited to 14 participants
- Guided reflection, time outdoors, and kayaking
FAQs
A few things people usually want to know before joining.
Who is this retreat for?
This retreat is for men looking for community, more confidence in themselves, and more space for play, reflection, and connection.
What does the application process look like?
Once you’ve submitted your application, we’ll set up a brief call — it’s a vibe check for both of us. If it’s a good fit, we’ll move forward with a deposit to secure your spot.
What’s included?
Retreats include lodging, meals, facilitated workshops, and shared group experiences throughout the weekend.
Do I need prior retreat experience?
No. Most of our participants are joining a retreat for the first time.
Is this a religious retreat?
No. We welcome men of all backgrounds and do not focus on any religious views.
How many spots are available?
The upcoming retreat is capped at 14 participants to keep the group small and intentional.
Ready for the next retreat?
We’re planning our next Here We Are weekend for this fall in Maine. You can learn more about dates, details, and application process on our retreat page.
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